Put 'em to Work

Those of you all who know me, know that I think chores for children, even small ones, are a GOOD thing. My kids all help with various chores around the house according to their age and ability.

These are some chores I let the boys do:

* help wash windows
* take out the garbage
* make their beds
* put dirty clothes in their own laundry baskets in their closets
* feed the dog
* water plants
* take the dog outside
* help set the table for dinner
* take their cups/plates to the sink when finished eating
* help with cleaning the bathroom
* dustmopping the hardwood floors
* planting flowers outside, picking up sticks, raking leaves, etc.

These are not "assigned" chores every week. As of yet, they do not receive an allowance. Once I feel they are ready to have a regular chore for every week, they may. We expect them to do a few things every day - straighten/make their bed, put dirty clothes in baskets, clean up after they eat and pick up toys they play with when they are done. None of these things are too hard for them - even our almost 3 year old helps out!

Here is an example of how they help: Yesterday I was doing laundry. My littlest guy, Andy, wanted to help. He would push all the wet clothes into the dryer as I put them on the door from the washer. Then he handed me clothes from the basket as I checked them for stains and put them in the washer. He put our dog's food in her bowl. He put all the dirty clothes in his hamper in the basket for me to take to the laundry room. He took his pajamas off and laid them neatly on his dresser. He helped clean up toys throughout the day. He asked to put his plate and cup in the sink after dinner. He will be 3 in May.

I know some people want to do all the chores for themselves because "their kids won't do them right or just the way they like them done". I totally get that. BUT, how will our kids ever learn to do things right if we don't teach them?

I also know that some people would think my kids are too young to do "chores". I would challenge that. I think they WANT to do them now. Any time I am cleaning, doing chores, they ASK to help. My theory is get them doing these things while they still think it is fun. They will be used to the idea and as they get older it will just be a part of family life.

I want my boys to grow up being responsible for their own messes - both literally and figuratively. I want them to think about others and how their actions impact others. I want them to WANT to help their wives someday with things like picking up their socks and putting them in the laundry (not leaving them around the house for their wife to pick up!). I want them to offer to help with dishes or cooking or whatever chore is necessary. My husband does these things all the time. I want them to learn to be CONSIDERATE of others (their mom, teacher, wives, friends, co-workers). Obviously, they are still young but I think they are beginning to get this!

Don't be afraid to offer your kids some responsibility, even at a young age. You are doing them (& you) a BIG favor!