Yesterday I went to the doctor for my first pre-natal appointment.
YES - I said pre-natal. YIKES!!!
I am just starting my 4th month.....14 1/2 weeks. I had an ultrasound and heard the heartbeat....a strong 154. There is just something so reassuring about hearing that first heartbeat, right? You know you are pregnant, the nausea & exhaustion won't let you forget it! But until you see that little person on the screen and hear that heartbeat, it just isn't as real.
I saw the doctor and they gave me the whole "here is what medicine you can take, foods to avoid, exercise to do, etc." speech (now heard for the 4th time). Everything is normal and the way it is supposed to be, thank you Lord!
I go back in 4 weeks for a normal checkup and then again in two weeks for the 20 week ultrasound. Those of you who are acquainted with the world of pregnancy know that ultrasound is usually when you can find out the gender of your baby (if they cooperate). This is the BIG dilemma around our house right now. We did not know that Blake and Noah were boys until they were delivered. It was exciting for me to not know, which is weird if you know me. I am a PLANNER, detail lover and list maker. But, we loved not knowing. It is so cool to be able to call friends and family afterward and say, "It's a BOY!" and tell his name.
When we were pregnant with Andy, I let two people, my mother-in-law and my sister, Jenny, talk me into finding out the gender. It was nice to know and have clothes ready and the nursery just right, but I confess that finding out in the ultrasound room just wasn't as cool to me. Because I had two boys already, every time someone would ask me what I was having, I would say, "Another baby boy!". You would be surprised at the responses I received - "oh, I am so sorry", "couldn't get a girl, huh?", "I'll be praying for you" and "3 boys - you will have your hands full!" were some of them. I got so tired of hearing those things. I mean - 3 boys - isn't that a BLESSING??? I know plenty of people who would love to have three children of their own without any regard for boy vs. girl.
I say all of that to say, it makes me a little hesitant to find out this time. I have already had many comments about how we must be trying to have a girl. I would love to have a little girl. BUT - if I have a little boy, I am NOT going to be sad about it. I embrace the verse that says, "Every good and perfect gift is from the Lord," James 1: 17.
So.....knowing me, I will probably not decide what to do about this decision until i am sitting on the table in the ultrasound room and the technician asks me if we want to know the gender. Greg will say it is up to me and I know he would rather not know.
Until then, I am looking forward to the nausea going away, having some more energy and getting out my Spring maternity clothes!
We told the boys yesterday.
Noah's response was, "I want a sister." A few minutes later he said, "Mommy, I am going to come up with a REALLY good name for this baby. It just may take me a few minutes to think about it, okay?".
Blake didn't say much. He just grinned. Now he knows why we are talking about moving the bedrooms around!
Andy said, "A BABY? Where?".
No matter if this baby is a boy or girl, it will be loved and well-tended :)
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Congrats, CB!!! God bless that little baby in there, boy or girl!!!!
ReplyDeleteBethie!!!! I am SO excited for you! This is amazing news. I can't believe you are on #4! May God be with you and your whole family during your pregancy and delivery. I loved reading your insights about finding out the gender and I think you've convinced me to tell you to let it be a surprise! :) I am also a planner so I had to know at the ultrasound what we were having. But your explanation makes perfect sense! I hated when people would ask me which I wanted (boy or girl). What a question! I just wanted a happy and healthy baby! So I'll pray for the same for you! Hugs and Kisses! ~Bethie
ReplyDeleteThanks you all!
ReplyDeleteBeth - I am leaning more and more towards not finding out :) I know it will drive some of my family crazy, but may be more peaceful for me inside! Your little girl is ADORABLE. Enjoy every minute with her and every stage. She'll be walking before you can blink!
CB-
ReplyDeleteI just found your blog through facebook. I love reading your posts. You are such a good writer! If you decide to find out the sex of the baby, you should do a reveal party with your family and friends. You take a sealed envelope with the sex of the baby written in it to a baker along with a bag of pink gumballs and a bag of blue gumballs. The baker will bake the correct color of gumball in cupcakes based on the sex of the baby. Then at a party that night, you can find out with the rest of your family and friends whether you are having a boy or a girl when everyone bites into their cupcake at the same time. One of my friends from Nashville did this last summer and posted a blog about it. Here is the link:
http://lifewiththebrocks.blogspot.com/2010/06/its-girl.html
I think it's a really fun idea for something different to do! Of course, we just had our 1st in January and I wasn't patient enough to wait. I had to know ASAP! Congratulations and I look forward to following your "mommy musings."
God bless,
Emily Arnold Davis